Is Working Towards Connection, Splitting Us Apart?

We’ve become so dependent on technology, that we give a blind eye to the negative effects of it. Yes, the world has become so advanced due to technology and now all information sources are as close to one’s fingertips. It is most certainly providing us with uncountable ways of connecting, networking, making friends, and preaching our opinions. However, through this process, have we ever looked back to see how it is separating us and leaving us more lonely than ever?

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No need to deny this, because it’s true. Today, one is so busy with connecting online, that we don’t realize than in reality, we’re sitting alone on our phones. We don’t realize that we’re not actually with our friends, but rather only with a simple metal object that we’ve made our life source.

Why is it that we don’t come face to face with people and start conversations and feel more comfortable with talking on social media platforms? Why is it that we rather text our friends and ask for what we have for homework instead of asking them at school? And why is it that whenever we’re alone, our hands automatically reach for our phones, so that we don’t seem alone. We know the answers but choose not admit them, because it would make them true.

We really need to take a step back and try to reconnect with those surrounding us and value our time with them more. Because why talk to someone through a device, when we can easily have a more intriguing conversation with the same people face to face.

Like how Eeman said, in her very well put blog post about the world of technology, she too has noticed that in her world of books and galore, technology has made its way in as well.

There were actually times when my friends and I were all sitting together, but none of us were talking, I had my book out, silently reading on my own, and the rest of my friends had their phones pulled out, and were on Facebook, or Snapchat. So basically we were all together, sitting in the same place, but not even looking at each other, or saying a word to one another ~Eeman

It actually is really heartbreaking that we’re not doing anything to stop ourselves from being completely alone. The time is coming fast, and in the near future, I can see for us to have no need to even speak. Technology will do everything for us, and we’ll sit there interacting with robots.

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In a TEDtalk, by “Sherry Turkle: Connected, But Alone” she starts off talking about how her daughter texted her saying “Good Luck”, and that it gave her a warm feeling, however leaving a hole in her heart. Because of technology, there was no need to say the same thing face to face, even though it would feel so much better.

The video really opens eyes to our current situation. It gives us an idea about how bad our dependency has become. Whether we accept it or not technology is splitting us apart and leaving us ALL to be alone together.

Today’s the day, if we unplug from technology starting now, our futures will be brighter, our lives will be simpler, and our friendships and relationships with others will be stronger.  Let’s make a move before it’s too late, before we lose everyone in the race of finding more friends. Let’s not have a lonely future set up for ourselves. Let’s change, and let’s do it now.


Commenting – Do’s and Dont’s

     As you may be able to tell, I am quite new at this whole blogging thing, and I am learning new information everyday about what makes a good blog. Recently it has come to my knowledge that comments have their own way of bringing life to a blog. Which makes my blog, at the moment a bit dead. But that’s okay. Because it make sense, for it to take some time to reach a level of blogging, where there are enough readers to leave comments.

     One thing we should always remember, is the fact that when we’re commenting, we’re doing so on a public basis. Meaning that we should be careful when preaching our opinion, making sure that they don’t start feuds of comments on a post.

     But don’t let that stop you from commenting and getting your opinion out there. Because why miss out on all the benefits. Commenting on other blogs, bring new readers to your blog.

     Now, I’m not an expert, so don’t expect my advice to be the best. However do keep this in mind, I’m learning with you guys and hopefully what I have learned will be of benefit to you!

Here’s some tips you should consider when writing a comment:

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Photo Credit: Flickr via Compfight cc
  • Try your best to motivate and inspire the blogger.

Even if you disagree with what the blogger has to say, try to put your words in a way that will get your opinion to them, but is still subtle. Compliment them, between sentences, so even if you say something that may not be of their liking, they won’t feel offended or hurt. What you really want is for the blogger to feel like writing that post was worth all the work.

  • Keep it short and sweet.

If your comment is longer than the blog post itself, in all likelihood people don’t have the time to read it. Keep it short and what you have to say will receive the value it deserves. But then again, don’t make it a three word comment. That doesn’t make much of an impact.

  • Make sure you know what you’re talking about.

If you don’t have background knowledge on the topic of the post, don’t comment. It only makes you look confused, and you don’t want that on a public forum like the internet.

  • Check your grammar and spelling.

A blogger puts a lot of time and effort in making sure their post meets the expectation of their readers. So the least the readers can do is give feedback in an educated way. Check your comment over before publishing it. Make sure there aren’t any foolish mistakes, because again it won’t make you look so good in the eyes of others.

  • Be perceptive.

Write a thoughtful comment, summing up all contents of the post. Add some things you liked about it, some things you didn’t agree with and why. Try to ask some constructive questions, to start a conversation with others.

Some things you may want to avoid, when commenting:

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Photo Credit: C x 2 Flickr via Compfight cc
  • Being rude or offensive.

There’s a nice way of disagreeing with someone’s point of view on a topic. You really have to put yourself in the blogger’s shoes, and think about how you would feel if someone left a mean comment on a piece of writing you may have worked really hard on.

  • Being informal and unprofessional.

You don’t want to put off an impression that makes you look unprofessional. Remember that you’re not texting the blogger, but rather publishing a comment on an online blog, somewhere where almost everyone has access to. So just for that moment, leave the “luv, cuz, lol, and gr8” stuff aside.

  • Restating points from the post.

A comment repeating everything in the post, isn’t of benefit to anyone. If you have anything new to add on, that the blogger may have missed, go ahead and add it. But, don’t restate the points, we get it, you know how to summarize a passage. But doing so, may slightly annoy others.

  • Commenting late on a post.

Sorry, party’s over. Coming late to comment on a post, isn’t going to let you stand out. It probably won’t catch anyone’s eye, and you will miss out on the conversations. So you may aswell, comment on some other recent post.

How you should present yourself:

  • Use your real name, or at least one that isn’t spammy or just foolish. Please don’t use “greenmilkshake1567”or “ilovehamsters101”.
  • Make sure your profile, has accurate information like your e-mail address, so if someone wanted to contact you, they could do so with ease.
  • Set your profile image as  aprofessional, presentable image of you, or atleast a picture of something important to you. Just not a picture of something that doesn’t represent you, is what I’m trying to say.

One thing, you should all take with you after reading this post is that commenting may seem like it has too many difficult rules to follow, but once you try it, you won’t want to stop.

Check out the video I made on commenting using

Sincerely yours,