Characteristics and Traits of a Good Leader

Down below is a list of characteristics and traits I believe a good leader should have. Let me know if there is anything else that would describe a good leader, in the comments below.

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  • Good Leaders are honest, trustworthy, reliable, cooperative, proactive, flexible, respectful etc.  
  • A good leader always has to think three steps ahead, working to master their own environment with the goal of avoiding problems before they arise.
  • A good leader will adapt to new surroundings and situations, doing their best to adjust.  
  • A good leader must be willing to work to understand the needs and desires of others.
  • A good leader has to ask many questions, consider all options, and lead in the right direction.
  • A good leader will treat others with respect, and will ultimately earn respect.  
  • A good leader will work to consider all options when making decisions.
  • A good leader will evaluate the input from all interested parties and work for the best of everyone.
  • A  good leader must create access to information, for them to be able to use it for the good of their people.
  • A good leader will recognize the efforts of others and reinforce those actions. And appreciate their efforts to create a better place to live.

Is Working Towards Connection, Splitting Us Apart?

We’ve become so dependent on technology, that we give a blind eye to the negative effects of it. Yes, the world has become so advanced due to technology and now all information sources are as close to one’s fingertips. It is most certainly providing us with uncountable ways of connecting, networking, making friends, and preaching our opinions. However, through this process, have we ever looked back to see how it is separating us and leaving us more lonely than ever?

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No need to deny this, because it’s true. Today, one is so busy with connecting online, that we don’t realize than in reality, we’re sitting alone on our phones. We don’t realize that we’re not actually with our friends, but rather only with a simple metal object that we’ve made our life source.

Why is it that we don’t come face to face with people and start conversations and feel more comfortable with talking on social media platforms? Why is it that we rather text our friends and ask for what we have for homework instead of asking them at school? And why is it that whenever we’re alone, our hands automatically reach for our phones, so that we don’t seem alone. We know the answers but choose not admit them, because it would make them true.

We really need to take a step back and try to reconnect with those surrounding us and value our time with them more. Because why talk to someone through a device, when we can easily have a more intriguing conversation with the same people face to face.

Like how Eeman said, in her very well put blog post about the world of technology, she too has noticed that in her world of books and galore, technology has made its way in as well.

There were actually times when my friends and I were all sitting together, but none of us were talking, I had my book out, silently reading on my own, and the rest of my friends had their phones pulled out, and were on Facebook, or Snapchat. So basically we were all together, sitting in the same place, but not even looking at each other, or saying a word to one another ~Eeman

It actually is really heartbreaking that we’re not doing anything to stop ourselves from being completely alone. The time is coming fast, and in the near future, I can see for us to have no need to even speak. Technology will do everything for us, and we’ll sit there interacting with robots.

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In a TEDtalk, by “Sherry Turkle: Connected, But Alone” she starts off talking about how her daughter texted her saying “Good Luck”, and that it gave her a warm feeling, however leaving a hole in her heart. Because of technology, there was no need to say the same thing face to face, even though it would feel so much better.

The video really opens eyes to our current situation. It gives us an idea about how bad our dependency has become. Whether we accept it or not technology is splitting us apart and leaving us ALL to be alone together.

Today’s the day, if we unplug from technology starting now, our futures will be brighter, our lives will be simpler, and our friendships and relationships with others will be stronger.  Let’s make a move before it’s too late, before we lose everyone in the race of finding more friends. Let’s not have a lonely future set up for ourselves. Let’s change, and let’s do it now.

Why Video Games Should Be Banned For Minors

Here’s a little passage I wrote a while back on why violent video games should be banned for minors. Just an opinion, comment below what you think. Here you go!

Let’s look at the world today. There is crime and violence everywhere and there has to be a cause for it all? Research on the effects of media violence has been conducted for over 40 years; the first serious studies on the effects of violent video games on children only appeared in the 1980’s. Our youth today, are exposed to many aggressive and violent games and finding them to be a source of entertainment. Because of the violent video games today’s youth are inspired and are slowly becoming the characters in the video games they play.

Today 97% of teenagers in the Unite States of America play video games. 90% of those children play violent video games. Many social scientists expect video games to have an impact on minors for the following four reasons:

1. Children are more likely to imitate the actions of a character with whom they identify. In violent video games, players participate as a character, and even choose which weapons they’ll use while fighting other characters.

2. Video games by their very nature require active participation rather than passive observation.

3.Repetition increases learning. Video games involve a great deal of repetition. If the games are violent, then the effect is a behavioral rehearsal for violent activity.

4.Rewards increase learning, and video games are based on a reward system.

Now, early research proves that because of violent video games, minors tend to become more aggressive. They become more prone to confrontation with their teachers. They start to engage in fights with their peers. And they start to see a decline in school achievements. Violence in our society, of course, is not fully caused by violent media. But research shows that continuous exposure to violent media causes minors and adults to believe that violence can be an acceptable, positive way to solve problems.

For example, Aaron Hamel was killed and Kimberly Bede was injured when two stepbrothers in Tennessee, aged 14 and 16, opened fire with rifles they’d found in their home. The boys cited Grand Theft Auto III as the inspiration for their real-life destruction.

Violent video games such as Call of Duty, Grand Theft Auto, Halo and Assassin’s Creed set a very violent picture to minors. Games like these basically inspire minors into making violent actions. Can you imagine sitting in your passenger seat when a man you don’t know jumps into your car and drives off then starts to smash into other cars.

On September 23, 2013, Zachary Burgess stole a car with a woman sitting in the passenger seat and did just that. What was his motive? He just wanted to see what it was like to “play Grand Theft Auto in real life.” He put his own, the woman’s and others’ lives in danger because he wanted to have a little fantasy joy ride like he would in the video game. Violent video games inspire just that.

Now, what about school shootings? We all know all schools consist mostly of youth. And these same young children are exposed to very violent video games. Studies prove that school shootings are usually caused by bullying, problems with teachers or staff, mental illnesses, or especially seeking popularity. But 75% of the school shootings that occurred in the past 30 years have been inspired by violent video games. 

For example, on April 20th, 1999, two teens went on a shooting spree at Columbine High School in Littleton, Colorado, killing 13 people and wounding more than 20 others before turning their guns on themselves and committing suicide. This massacre took place because these teenagers were influenced by violent video games.

After all I have stated, why shouldn’t violent video games be banned to minors. If we look at a balance scale, the video games cause more harm than good. Violent video games have made our world a scary place to live in. And I believe banning these games are for the betterment of the whole. It would stop students from being distracted from school, and will help them grow to be much more knowledgeable people. It will stop crimes, violences and other horrible actions harshly. And lastly it will help our world be a better place to live in for our future generations.

 

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A Few Of My Favourite Poems

Here are 7 of my most favourite poems. Let me know in the comments below which one is your favourite and why. 🙂

 

To Society:
Julie Martinez

We blame society, yet we fail to realize
that each and evey one of us makes up
society. Everyone should
Realize that we are each living, breathing
human being; all with our own struggles.
We all go home and stare at the mirror wishing we could
be someone different, we all
struggle to find our place in this world, and
We. All. Have. Our. Own. Struggles.
So why go out of your day to make
Someone else’s worse, when you can simply
Move on with your life, or even better, help someone
Else for a change. Because, you see, if
You live in a world where everyone blame society,
You might as well blame yourself,
Because you are a part
Of society too.

His Command
By: Heather Noor Brooks

What is it you think you see when you look at me?
No rights, no freedoms, oppressed and scared?
Why?  Because I cover my hair?
What will it take to make you understand?
This path I walk is God’s plan!
Just as in the Bible, He commands
For you to cover yourself, except your face and hands!

So please, do not pity me
I cover myself because HE commands
as I humble myself to HIS holy plan!
With my scarf and modest dress
I command of men my full respect!
They do not look at me as an object or prize to obtain
But value me for my intellect and self-respecting ways!

So the tear you see roll down my cheek
is a tear for you and not for me!
For the one who is truly oppressed
are the slaves to fashion, beauty and dress!
As the men of the “modern world” undress you
to sell their shoes and cars
You starve, your purge, you implant and you tuck
to still never feel pretty enough!

So with my head held high, and my veil pulled tight
I walk with pride tonight
With hope that someday you’ll see
Just how LIBERATING it is
to be covered like me!

CASABIANCA
Felicia Hemans

The boy stood on the burning deck
Whence all but he had fled;
The flame that lit the battle’s wreck
Shone round him o’er the dead.
Yet beautiful and bright he stood,
As born to rule the storm;
A creature of heroic blood,
A proud, though childlike form.
The flames rolled onhe would not go
Without his Father’s word;
That father, faint in death below,
His voice no longer heard.
He called aloud‘say, Father, say
If yet my task is done?’
He knew not that the chieftain lay
Unconscious of his son.
‘Speak, father!’ once again he cried,
‘If I may yet be gone!’
And but the booming shots replied,
And fast the flames rolled on.
Upon his brow he felt their breath,
And in his waving hair,
And looked from that lone post of death
In still yet brave despair.
And shouted but once more aloud,
‘My father! must I stay?’
While o’er him fast, through sail and shroud,
The wreathing fires made way.
They wrapt the ship in splendour wild,
They caught the flag on high,
And streamed above the gallant child,
Like banners in the sky.
There came a burst of thunder sound
The boyoh! where was he?
Ask of the winds that far around
With fragments strewed the sea!
With mast, and helm, and pennon fair,
That well had borne their part
But the noblest thing which perished there
Was that young faithful heart.

Caged Bird  By Maya Angelou

The free bird leaps
on the back of the wind
and floats downstream
till the current ends
and dips his wings
in the orange sun rays
and dares to claim the sky.

But a bird that stalks
down his narrow cage
can seldom see through
his bars of rage
his wings are clipped and
his feet are tied
so he opens his throat to sing.

The caged bird sings
with fearful trill
of the things unknown
but longed for still
and his tune is heard
on the distant hill
for the caged bird
sings of freedom

The free bird thinks of another breeze
and the trade winds soft through the sighing trees
and the fat worms waiting on a dawn-bright lawn
and he names the sky his own.

But a caged bird stands on the grave of dreams
his shadow shouts on a nightmare scream
his wings are clipped and his feet are tied
so he opens his throat to sing

The caged bird sings
with a fearful trill
of things unknown
but longed for still
and his tune is heard
on the distant hill
for the caged bird
sings of freedom.

I DO NOT LOVE YOU EXCEPT BECAUSE I LOVE YOU
Pablo Neruda

I do not love you except because I love you;
I go from loving to not loving you,
From waiting to not waiting for you
My heart moves from cold to fire.
I love you only because it’s you the one I love;
I hate you deeply, and hating you
Bend to you, and the measure of my changing love for you
Is that I do not see you but love you blindly.
Maybe January light will consume
My heart with its cruel
Ray, stealing my key to true calm.
In this part of the story I am the one who
Dies, the only one, and I will die of love because I love you,
Because I love you, Love, in fire and blood.

X
Imtiaz Dharker

Hand shaking on the stop-cock, she looks
at the X, the warning cross,
the water-tap unlocked, its padlock cracked.
Breath hacks in the throat, Check your back.
Turn it on and an anxious mutter swells
to thunder in the plastic bucket. Don’t spill it.
Fill it to the top. Lift to the hip, stop,
balance the weight for the dangerous walk
home. Home.
Don’t lose a drop.
From the police chowki across the track
a whistle, a shout. Run. Don’t stop. Don’t slip.
A drag at the hip. Hot, hot underfoot. Water slops
up and out in every direction, over the lip,
over her legs, a shock of cool, a spark of light.
With her stolen piece of sky, she has taken flight.
Behind her, the shouters give up. She puts down
the bucket. The water stills
She looks into it, looks up to where the blue
is scarred with aimless tracks.
Jet-trails cross each other off
before they die out, a careless X.

We Rulers of The Earth
Sandra M. Haight

Homo Sapiens we call ourselves, rulers of this Earth,
Intelligent and civilized, but what is all this worth?

We’re working hard to conquer space—we landed on our Moon.
We better solve our problems here, or soon we will face doom.

New industries and factories constructed every day,
And poisoning the air we breathe—is this the price to pay?

Energy sources are shrinking—what happens when they’re gone?
Will Man of Earth ever learn to work with Nature as one?

Some in this world are starving still while others hoard their gold.
Intelligent and civilized, at least, that’s what we’re told.

We cure disease with drugs that may cause sickness as result—
How many dearly paid for this ‘experimental cult’?

We have become a plastic world where everything is fake,
From the foods we eat to how we look—when will we awake?.

We’re civilized we tell ourselves, but fight our fellow man,
If only we could solve world stresses through a better plan.

With government corruption and morality sinking low…
The price of progress we may say—is this the way to grow?

We have upset Earth’s balanced ways, destroying Nature’s scheme—
We’re intelligent and civilized—is it all a dream?

Will we ever walk on Nature’s path, take her by the hand,
Restore the beauty meant to be on Earth, our dying land?

Homo Sapiens we call ourselves, rulers of this Earth,
Intelligent and civilized, but what is all this worth?

A Sentence Using Only Pictures

Here’s a sentence I made using only images, comment down below if you got it, and if not, try harder! 🙂

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Good Luck, let me know if you are having any trouble with figuring it out!

Beautiful Bangladesh

Today’s post is slightly on the personal side. Not completely, but it is. For those of you who probably don’t know much about me, which is probably the majority of you, I was born in a small country named Bangladesh. Now I know some of you may be like, “Ahem, can you repeat that, sorry I just didn’t know such country existed”. And I get that, I have experienced such situations many times.

You see, someone out of curiosity would ask me where I’m from, and me being an open book, I’d answer with such enthusiasm, you know saying I’m from Bangladesh and all, and then I’d get a confused and ignorant facial expression from them. Then I’d have to break it down for them, so I’d say it’s beside India or Pakistan, and they would answer like “Oh, So your Indian”? And I’d just completely lose it on the inside.

So today, I’m about to fill you in with some information about this beautiful country I like to call my motherland. Now I swear, the next time someone asks me where I’m from, expect for me to just hand you the link to this particular post. I’m about to give you all the information I can.

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  • Bangladesh has a population of 163 million people (163,654,860) as of July 2013 making it the world’s eighth most populated country.
  • For such a large population, Bangladesh is a relatively small country, 147,570 km² (56,977 mi²), making it one of the world’s most densely populated countries.
  • The largest city and capital of Bangladesh is Dhaka. The city has an estimated population of 15 million people making it one of the largest city in the world. It is known as the “City of Mosques”.
  • In 1947, Bangladesh area was divided off from India and became the eastern area of the new country called Pakistan, the western part of which was on the other side of India. East Pakistan rebelled with a Civil war in 1971, and gained independence from the West (Pakistan) to become the country of Bangladesh.
  • The currency of Bangladesh is called the taka.
  • Over 30% of Bangladesh’s population live below the poverty line, however, the economy and standards of living have been improving over recent years.
  • Over 98% of Bangladeshis speak the official language of Bengali. Which is the language that people gave lives for, in 1952 Bangladeshis gave their lives for the right to speak their language.

  • The national animal of Bangladesh is the endangered Royal Bengal Tiger.
  • The Magpie Robin (or Doyel or Doel) is the national bird of Bangladesh.
  • The national flower of Bangladesh is the white-flowered water lily, called Shapla.
  • Jackfruit (Kathal in Bengali) is the national fruit and the Mango tree is the national tree of Bangladesh.
  • The most popular sport in Bangladesh is cricket. The national cricket team first participated in the Cricket World Cup in 1999.
  • Bangladesh is home to the world’s longest sea beach. Cox’s Bazar is an unbroken, 125 km sandy sea beach with a gentle slope.
  • Bangladesh is home to the world’s longest sea beach. Cox’s Bazar is an unbroken, 125 km sandy sea beach with a gentle slope.
  • Bangladesh is sometimes called “the playground of seasons” because it has six – not four – separate seasons.

I find that whenever Bangladesh’s name comes in the international media platform, it is because of some sort of negative reason. And that always breaks my heart because, I know how much potential beauty this country has. So hopefully this post gave you a nicer picture of my beloved motherland.

What Is Success and What Determines It?

When we think of successful people, we think of those who have brought themselves to a position of financial stability, fame, luxury and achievement of specific goals. For example I think of Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Steve Jobs, J. K. Rowling, and many others. But the question is, what is behind all their successes and what determines success in our eyes?

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I’ve recently started reading a book, called The Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell, which is basically a book where the author analyzes the success of many people like the Beatles, Bill Gates, and many hockey players. He emphasizes a lot on how cultural differences, by-born intelligence, rational decision making, and consistent practice has an impact on a person’s future and success. I would really advise you guys to read the book and take a look at his opinion on success.

“Do you see the consequences of the way we have chosen to think about success? Because we so profoundly personalize success, we miss opportunities to lift others onto the top rung…We are too much in awe of those who succeed and far too dismissive of those who fail. And most of all, we become much too passive. We overlook just how large a role we all play—and by “we” I mean society—in determining who makes it and who doesn’t.”
Malcolm Gladwell, Outliers: The Story of Success

However, my opinion on success slightly differs, with Malcolm Gladwell as I believe that success can be acquired by anyone who wants it. I think determination, ambition and hard work can take anyone towards achieving their goals and being successful. Success shouldn’t be determined by how much money a person has in their bank account, or how reknown their name is, but should be determined by the hard work and effort the person puts into getting to that level.

I know in today’s society, we see a man in a fancy suit, shiny shoes driving a luxury car, and automatically label him to be someone successful. Sure, maybe he is, but we never look into it. Situation may be that his father was someone highly successful, and after graduating with a post-secondary education degree, he chose to join his father’s business. What I mean to say is that, this man has it all, the financial abundance, fancy lifestyle, education and so on. But is he truly successful? Did he really have to work hard and sweat at all to get to the position he is at?

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In my eyes, a man who has a high school degree, and has started a family business for the sake of providing for his family, and is somewhat well known in his area for a hard working and determined man is just as much successful as the man I previously described. This man probably doesn’t have a huge house, fancy clothing, a luxury car, or a post-secondary education. But at whatever level he is at, he worked hard to get there, and that right there makes him someone successful, in my eyes, of course.

Comment down below, and let me know what success means to you. What do you think it means? What do you think should determine it? How should it be looked at and what is needed in order to acquire it?